Thursday, 25 June 2015

THE SECRET BEHIND KNOWING YOUR SCORES.

Someone once asked me what my most important possession was,  I told them my brain, it seemed to bother them that I did not choose something tangible or expensive that I could hold onto. Well, this question will surprisingly have far varying answers if a wide range of people were to be asked. Many people around the world seem to believe that their most valuable assets are tangible items that have probably been attained after several months or years of hard work. Hardly do they ever consider themselves as valuable assets to themselves and other people

Growing up, Sam was the ideal student in class, a good friend and confidant to his pals. He always knew the right words to say to everyone to make them feel much better, a quality that won him the favour of so many people around him. He was that “magnet” that attracted everyone around it. He was a multitalented person, with varying skills in different fields of life. He was, as most people could call him, “A Jack of all trades.”



He never imagined that one day, all that could be robbed away from him until he woke up in hospital after a six months coma with no memory of what happened to him. He kept wondering what was going around him but he could not figure out a simple detail of which people surrounded him. The doctor came and told him he had a brain tumor that was spreading fast each day. He had a few years left to live with the rate at which the tumor was growing. He was so torn down that given the excruciating pain he was enduring, death came as reliable companion and escape for his agony. He was advised to enjoy his days because he didn’t have so many left for him to live.

 
For several weeks all he could think about was giving up because he saw no future in pushing forward with life that seemed like a time bomb, ready to explode at any moment. Most of his friends by this time, had already given up on him. For the first time all the words he used to encourage other people now seemed like a joke to him.

A friend visited him and asked him what kind of story he would want to hear if he were to attend his burial. The statement troubled him for several days until he finally decided to step out his house and face life with the little breath he had left. The first few days were full of hurt as most people treated him like a brittle glass that could shatter any time. Fortunately, this did not deter him and he went on ignore the pessimism that lay all around him and decided to dedicate his time to his most loved hobby, helping other people with troubled souls.


Within A few months, what appeared to be a lifeless boy with no hope, had become the pillar of hope to the many children in the neighbor who had lost hope. He constantly reminded himself of the few days that he had left, he realized they would not increase by keeping to himself. He no longer felt that his life had little to offer but believed it was a big blessing to many.


Like Sam, we usually hit the wall in life, weather it is a minor loss, a delayed achievement or even a major setback. During this time we start magnifying our problems through focusing on everything that is going wrong and we forget the many things that are going right.  We occasionally turn to counting other peoples’ scores around us in relation to our own. If they are high then we feel like failures and if they are low then we feel better about ourselves but in reality nothing is changing about our lives. All that ever does to us is to keep us content in a stagnant position where we feel no need for enhancement.

Our struggles are not won overnight and it may take a while before we feel victorious. Everything changes the moment we start seeing our challenges for what they really are instead of what we think they are. This is the most reliable way we can move from a total devastation to the peak of our lives.

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