Wednesday, 18 February 2015


Children have the proudest moments in their lives at the times when they are with parents. They are too close to the parents who are genuinely concerned about them.  While growing up, the lives of children or what they think they are is unarguably based on what their parents or guardians think of them. This drives them to be “good” children because they know deep within them that the “good child” is always loved and cherished and it is the dream of every child to be appreciated and valued mainly by the parents. This could be attributed to fact that every human being is born with an innate desire to be loved and respected. In childhood our main motivation for acting on anything is usually driven by the direction our guardians want to push us into.  Our self-esteem and confidence at this point in life is subsequently built on how well we perform on the duties and direction given to us by our guardians. 
As we grow older we join school and meet several peers who may share different values or customs so we influence them in some ways but they also influence us in many ways. Their contributions to our lives soon become a yard stick on which we build our confidence, so they can develop our self-esteem but can also be the reason we feel inferior. At this point in life, the views of our parents may not be as influential on our lives as the views of our peers. We can easily be persuaded into doing something we would not like to do but we go ahead to do it because our peers say so. The peer group we join during this period will most certainly determine the kind of lifestyle we lead whether good or bad.
There comes a point in life where we start feeling the weight of our actions and suddenly it hits us, that we are no longer little but have eventually grown up. Fortunately, this time never has to catch you off guard if you take responsibility at an early age. If you become aware of your inner capabilities, talents and weaknesses at an early age, it is easier to define a unique identity for yourself. This identity will be majorly be based on who you think you are, what you think you can do and where you want to be in life and it will largely be a result of your choosing unlike in the previous stages where you are defined by guardians or peers.
Everyone has individual qualities that make them stand out the “crowd” and if they are well nurtured, they can be a good source of confidence because they create a sense of achievement. Every once in a while, it is important that everyone sits down and ponders on their lives. It is always good to know your strengths because they not only indicate where your main efforts should be invested but also play a main role in defining who you are. It is also important to know your weaknesses too because they signal which areas of your life need improvement so that you can work towards getting better at them.  Lastly it is very significant for everyone to realize where their opportunities lie so that they know which people to approach or associate with in order to be challenged in how to further their goals. Ultimately, everyone needs to find a definition of who they are, understand their personality and cherished it in order to live a happy and more fulfilled life.


  1. Thats really true Jae, the people in your circles say a lot about you.

  2. Actually sometimes they define you